tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1982709864383925231.post672233648337962946..comments2023-04-04T04:52:57.981-05:00Comments on KC Man Up!: The Big “Pictionary”: One Female’s Perspectivekcmanuphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06026632932040484039noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1982709864383925231.post-83143863903372988492008-01-08T14:23:00.000-06:002008-01-08T14:23:00.000-06:00Thanks for sharing with us this experience, Nicole...Thanks for sharing with us this experience, Nicole. Sadly, I think many of us women run upon so many episodes similar to this we can't even recall them all. This is my first visit to Man Up! and I am excited to see what this site conjures up. Honesty with ourselves and others will serve us best, and help us to better understand and respect our brothers and sisters.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1982709864383925231.post-21682439494998948662007-11-19T12:49:00.000-06:002007-11-19T12:49:00.000-06:00I can related to the spectrum of emotions you desc...I can related to the spectrum of emotions you describe as well. I have a number of men in my life who I consider to be "allies" in gender violence prevention and response. I'll have a number of interactions with these men that seem so encouraging---like they really get it. And then every once in a while these same men (often in a group-think situation) will engage in behavior far below standards they've typically displayed.<BR/><BR/>Witnessing or experiencing these "slippages" is very disheartening and frustrating. And in a setting where you aren't familiar with everyone or when men outnumber women, it can be scary.<BR/><BR/>I really appreciate that you shared this Nicole, and I am glad to see others who are appaulled and alarmed by this behavior as well. <BR/><BR/>Sarah McCoy-Harms<BR/>Clinical Services Liaison--MOCSAsarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09559035632624982941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1982709864383925231.post-56028352329465198272007-11-16T10:22:00.000-06:002007-11-16T10:22:00.000-06:00What a powerful post. Whether it is group-think, p...What a powerful post. Whether it is group-think, pop culture or the media — these are simply excuses. We, as men, must come to understand the meaning of character, that is: "What you do when no one is watching." We shouldn't need babysitters. We shouldn't need someone to point out to us that our behavior is inappropriate. And there really is no excuse. We all have the ability to understand when our comments, thoughts and behavior are inappropriate.<BR/><BR/>It doesn't mean we won't make mistakes. But at least if we're aware of the potential harm we can cause, perhaps we'll think twice<BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing your story, Nicole.<BR/><BR/>SamSam Meershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05660887651943711629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1982709864383925231.post-39496901778523780112007-11-15T15:59:00.000-06:002007-11-15T15:59:00.000-06:00Wow,I am sorry that this situation happened and su...Wow,I am sorry that this situation happened and surprised that all the men joined in. I guess that is the power of a group. Victims that my unit encounter do sometimes put themselves in bad situations but this was not one of them. Ms. Littler and her female friends were with a large group of friends at a private residence. Men need to stand up for what is right. One of these men should have said, "Hey, this is inappropriate, lets do something else." Everyone needs to respect their fellow man/woman.<BR/><BR/>Capt. Mark Folsom<BR/>Commander<BR/>KCPD Special Victims UnitMark Folsomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18148695345210013275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1982709864383925231.post-53279511758932344902007-11-15T15:44:00.000-06:002007-11-15T15:44:00.000-06:00Thanks for sharing your experience.Unless we know ...Thanks for sharing your experience.<BR/>Unless we know our actions are offensive we will contiue doing and saying the same things. Your helping us be better men.<BR/>KenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com